Posted on | December 10, 2011 | 6 Comments
This is a post about potty training and poop so feel free to skip it! I do suggest that you give it a glance if you plan to have kids though, as I do believe that our society is wrong about how and when to start potty training.
I posted several months back about starting elimination communication with Sebastian. Basically, I help him sit on the potty at regular intervals, especially at key times that he is likely to pee – For instance, after naps. For #2, kids usually give a sign that they are about to go, such as getting really quiet and still or ducking into a corner.
Recently, Sebastian has learned to ‘sign’ for the potty. It is really simple; he just pats his diaper. We have the most success with signing in bed – He will wake up and sign to me that he needs to pee. I help him sit down, he pees, we put the dry diaper back on and go back to bed. Easy peesy.
During the day the signing is a lot more hit or miss. He is a busy toddler and I’m not sure if he doesn’t notice when he has to go or is just having too much fun to care. Either way, daytime pee is harder. Poop we can usually catch early enough to direct to the potty.
Recently a friend of a friend complimented me on our cloth diapers, telling me that she used to cloth diaper her son, now around 2 years old. “Oh,” I asked, “Until he was potty trained?”
This mom went on to say no, that wasn’t the reason, and then launched on about how kids aren’t ready to potty train until much older and she isn’t pushing it. Now, I agree with not pushing your child into anything, but really? Two is way too young to potty train? I don’t think so.
Most of the reasons I’ve heard people give against potty training “too early” are crap. We introduced the potty at just a few months old and Sebastian was certainly never afraid of it. When I suggest we go potty, he leads me into the bathroom. He likes to use the potty and to keep his diaper dry. He’s a little human and of course he doesn’t like to go in his pants!
Using the potty at 14 months old
Honestly, I feel like we could be close to a 100% potty success rate if I tried a bit harder. I tend not to change him unless he complains and I’m slow to get out of bed in the morning, meaning that he can wake up dry but end up peeing while waiting for his lazy mom to get up. At 14 months, he now tries to sit on the potty by himself. He can stand up fine (unlike at 7 months – See top of this post) and can sit down with a little help. It’s cute to watch him practice getting on and off. We still use the BABYBJÖRN Little Potty but I think we will have to upgrade to a stool and seat that goes over the toilet soon.
My original potty training goal was 18 months. Two years old is probably a more realistic timeframe, which is still younger than most parents in the U.S. even begin to potty train. (In other countries, elimination communication/early potty training is the norm. My sister-in-law, for instance, was fully potty trained when she came over from South Korea at two years old.)
Potty-training supplies: When we graduate from the Little Potty, I hope to move up to a potty seat and a step stool. We cloth diaper, which isn’t much different than cloth training pants, but we do have a pair of EcaWare training pants (that don’t quite fit yet but look cute) and I have my eye on some Super Undies.
I know that many parents use treats or bribes but for us, using the potty is just a natural part of the day, like eating or naps. The reward is not having to pee (or worse) in your pants!
Have you or are you potty training (or potty learning) a child? What do you think of society’s view that it’s better to start later than earlier when it comes to pottying?